The “payoff” to not hvn hubby home is hvn more time w ME. More time to focus on who & what I love, who & what makes me genuinely happy (and doesn’t); just hvn my eyes on me for once. Shackin up in previous relationships robbed me of the true beauty that comes from living ALONE(and baby is it beautiful🥰🧘🏾♀️)

There’s an univited quietness in his absence that I’ve decided to use to turn inward and really look at myself. When its painful, scary or just to retreat from the goofiness of the world; and I’m learning to appreciate it. I relish in the selfishness this bid allows me to have while still nurturing our union. Thanks to NJDOC, he can’t occupy more than 150 (real time) min of my 1440 min day. Once he’s home I won’t hv this around the clock time to just be alone w my thoughts, reflections, awareness so I purposely make the most of it now. I take myself on vacations, cook elaborate meals for the fun of it, have days where I do absolutely NOTHING and don’t feel bad about it, focus on healing my shit so it doesn’t create chaos in our marriage etc. I mean, it needs to be done anyway, might as well use the time I/we have to get to it now🤷🏾♀️

To a degree, im sure he has some resemblance of the same “alone time” to do his own reflecting and inner work, and I encourage it. Because the goal is for our time together (when it finally arrives) to match, or exceed the peace and beauty we’ve been able to create for ourselves, BY OURSELVES.. together. Yeah💋

November 25, 2021 at 5:55 pm
Happy Thanksgiving! And great picture by the way!
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November 25, 2021 at 6:17 pm
Thank you! Same to you & your family😊
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December 19, 2021 at 10:35 pm
Hi, Hope all is okay. I just wanted to wish you a Merry Xmas and a Happy New Year! All best, Sheila
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December 19, 2021 at 11:06 pm
Yes, we’re still making our way to the end of this journey. Thank you so much for everything and same to you and your family!🎊🎉❤
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December 30, 2021 at 3:25 pm
What’s the 1st thing you wanna do for your husband when he comes home? How are you gonna feel once he’s home now having to share your space w another person after living in solitude for so long?wow! You really broke those minutes down lol Ok sis! Where have you splurged on yourself too? Talk about self care I love it!! Do you think it bothers him when your on vacation? (in a lil jealous kinda way) what are some of the plans you both have for each other and together once he gets home? I love this title “Alone Together” makes perfect sense. Where are some of the places you’ve vacationed? U vacation alone or depends on your mood? Lol…What’s the new plans(if any) for you both in 2022?….Well as usual I enjoyed the read…Have a Happy New Year!!
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January 20, 2022 at 2:36 am
Hey hey happy new year. Idk y i never got the notification for these comments but i hope all is well. Im sure itll b an adjustment, but its one im ready to get used to(somebody besides me needs to handle the trash, heavy bags and bug smashin around here lol). Last year i stayed pretty local; MIA, N.O., Mississippi and lots of spa days🧖🏾♀️, but im def to planning some international trips(solo & w the homies. I think the only thing tht bothers him about me goin away is worryin that he wont b able to do anything if something “goes wrong”…but never jealous, he encourages me to get out & enjoy myself, with friends, solo….i dont do well in a box and thankfully he gets it. For 22 we’re focused on saving/investing/credit ….the boring adult stuff lol.
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February 13, 2022 at 12:52 pm
Gm! Like I said b4 I periodically scroll through to see if I’ve missed anything and when you don’t respond back I say to myself”it must be something she didn’t want to answer” I’m glad to see that’s not the case.Yes I’m good and how are YOU? Yea we do need them for the DIRTY wrk lol.YOU really are out here living this thing called life while you wait AWESOME!! Great spots how was those vacation areas? Where does your husband want to travel to once he’s home? Will he have to wait some time to travel once he comes home Or will he be able to get passport once he’s out?Have you guys started investing or is it in the works? That’s Awesome you guys plan so far ahead I guess this will make it a lil easier for him when he gets home.Thanx for responding back😊
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February 13, 2022 at 1:46 pm
Yes all the spots were great. None of them were places I hadnt been before, just new locations in the cities and more venturing out to try diff foods and things. Yes he def wants to travel(can’t be in this relationship and not want to lol). Not sure of what the terms will be when he’s first home but we’re banking on bein up and outta here asap. We’ve been doing some investing but we’re both still learning the ins and outs so nothing big yet
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