Much like a small growing child, our union has grown and developed significantly since the day we signed our lives over to each other. There’s been sleepless nights, confusion and even days when one(or both of us) are fussy or irritable for no apparent reason.
On the other hand we’ve learned to identify the parts of our relationship and ourselves that need more attention and nurturing. We’ve learned to communicate more clearly, and compassionately all while holding ourselves and each other accountable. In these last 5 years we’ve laughed til we cried, and cried until we laughed.
Every anniversary we get into this reflective mode almost instinctively and talk about the things we overcame, lessons learned, goals we met whether individually or as a unit; we love on each other and reassure one another with a reinvigorated (husband’s word lol) passion for a new year. I pray this unplanned ritual never ends.
Despite the walls, bars and time between us, we flourish. You come into- …well I came into this union thinking “how could I love this man any more than I do right now?” and today, the love from what is probably the most memorable day of our relationship seems like a drop in a bucket. It doesn’t even come close to what I feel today. We’ve grown.
I am not the woman I was 5 years ago, and he’s certainly not the same man I married. We’re better. Seeking more ways to understand each other than ways to prove we’re right. Offering each other the space and grace to grow as humans, to make mistakes, be vulnerable and feel our feelings….even if we don’t always understand them in the moment.
Our love is pushing past stereotypes, and withstanding the tests of times so many people feared(projected) that we’d surely drop the ball on. We’ve seen quite a few of the couples we met along this journey, with stories so similar to ours, fall completely a part. And while our hearts break for them, and the dreams their love will never realize, we never allowed what was going on around us, to interfere with what we have between us.
5 years from now, I’ll be writing a new blog as a newer woman in love with an even newer(and free) man. The goal is to continue being intentional about choosing each other everyday; to love, to understand, to live and let live. We don’t have to operate as owners of each other. When we both make the CHOICE to be present, love flows effortlessly between us and permeates every inch of our being.
Happy 5 Years to Us! 🎉🎊🥂🍾❤️ I’m excited to see where this love will take us next👩🏾❤️💋👨🏿